What do women want?

February 9, 2006

I used to think I had all the answers to this question until I dated my first gal. Eish! There’s something about women that I don’t get and it becomes even more confusing because I’m also a womyn. Does it mean I have no idea what I want also? Maybe…

Women are dreamers; we dream of a perfect life, perfect love, more money, beautiful kids and the perfect world. Needless to say that doesn’t exist. A perfect world is the one that you make for yourself, a life in which you are happy with who and what you are regardless of your shape, skin tone and sexual preference. We are always looking for someone to tell us we are beautiful before we can believe it ourselves, for someone to tell us we are worth something before we can walk tall with pride.

There are 2 movies that I’ve watched that attempt to answer this frequently asked question: What Women Want starring Mel Gibson and What a Girl Wants starring Amanda Bynes.

In What Women Want, Mel acquires this temporary gift of being able to hear women’s thoughts and he becomes their friend, agony aunt, a sister they’ve never had type of guy but at the end, I retain the fact that though most thing might be similar, women still have different preferences for everything. Judging from my Xs, I can tell you they all wanted different things. You just need to know the individual to know what makes them tick.

After a long time thinking of this question, I ask myself, “What do I want?” And like most people “I want the dream”. Men want it, women want it, we all want it and that’s probably the one thing people should think about when getting into a relationship whether it be with someone of the same sex or opposite sex. We all want the same thing and getting to it, is by listening to your partner and always make sure you are heard also.

So, are men from Mars and women from Venus? The answer is yes! But they can co-exist and even speak the same language, if only they could concentrate on the goal ahead and not their differences. As a lesbian woman, I know for sure that there are times when I have no idea what my partner wants and yet we’re from the same ‘Venus’.